Imagine this: You have booked a session with your dream photographer, but when you arrive to your session your toddler is just not having it. Your child cries, clings to you, and wants absolutely nothing to do with the camera. While the photographer tries to engage your child, they are just not responding. It’s all overwhelming and too much. You find yourself getting frustrated, which unintentionally leaks into your facial expressions. What was supposed to be a good memory leaves you feeling stressed and disappointed.

Young children often have endless energy and short attention spans, making it tricky to capture their personalities during a photography session. However, with the right strategies and preparation, you can help to ensure a smooth and enjoyable experience for everyone involved. Here are some expert tips to help you capture natural smiles from your camera-shy toddler.

1. Set Realistic Expectations

Remember, little ones have their own agenda. They are not concerned with your perfect vision for the photographs and if they smell a hint of pressure they will likely try to assert their independence, which is a perfectly normal part of their development. In almost all cases, your photographer has tricks up her sleeves in order to engage your child. The photographs might not be your perfect vision in the end, but they will be a representation of your family and the love between you.

2. Set the Tone Before the Session

Before the photo session begins, it’s important to set the tone with your little one. That starts before you’re getting ready to leave, and maybe a couple days before. You can invite them to ‘help’ in the preparation by allowing them to have a say in their outfit (as long as it is mom-approved!). Explain to them that they are going to have their photos taken and that it will be a fun experience. You can really play it up. They will meet a new lady (or if we’ve worked together you can remind them who I am) and they will do some smiling and playing. It is important not to put pressure on them about smiling, which will often backfire.

3. Be Ready to Go with the Flow

Toddlers are unpredictable, and sometimes things don’t go as planned. If your child is feeling fussy or doesn’t want to cooperate, be patient and flexible. If your child is not doing exactly as asked, but still smiling, make sure that you’re doing the same. Even if it isn’t a perfectly planned moment, we can still end up with authentic photographs between you. It’s okay if they’re not in the mood for certain poses. Take breaks, try different approaches, and let them explore in their own time. The more relaxed you are, the more your child will feel at ease.

4. Time It Right

Choose the timing of the photo session wisely. Schedule the shoot around your toddler’s daily routine—preferably after a nap or meal, when they’re well-rested and in a good mood. Avoid scheduling the session during their cranky hours or when they’re due for a nap. A happy toddler makes for great photos! Typically this ends up being in the morning, which coincides well with the the usual 9 or 9:30AM time slot. Outdoor sessions during the golden hour may be harder at this age, but not impossible.

5. Offer Positive Reinforcement

Toddlers respond well to praise and encouragement, so be sure to let your little one know they’re doing a great job. Compliment them throughout the session and offer small rewards or incentives (like stickers or a favorite treat) to keep their spirits high. A little positivity goes a long way in keeping them motivated and happy. Again, if the adults are keeping things light, then the child is more likely to follow suit. If your child tends to be shy, make the compliments and praise calmer, too. Too much attention could make their shyness increase.

6. Incorporate Games and Fun

Toddlers love to play, so the more interactive the session, the better! Encourage your child to move, explore, and engage in activities that make them laugh—whether it’s playing peek-a-boo, making silly faces or noises, watching bubbles float around, or dancing to a favorite song. These playful moments not only help them stay calm but also result in natural, joyful photos. You can expect me to direct them in ways that are kid-friendly. If we need them to sit on a little stool, I may make it a game if they at first seem unsure or resistant.

7. Bring Distractions

If your toddler starts to get restless, having a few distractions on hand can be a lifesaver. Pack a small bag with toys, snacks, or even an iPad with their favorite video or song. Keep these items handy in case you need a quick diversion to regain their attention and calm them down. A favorite stuffy can even be a sweet addition to some of the photographs. It does not always mean that the session is put on hold. During newborn sessions or sessions with multiple children, I can photograph a parent with a different child during this time or the take individual photographs of the baby.

Conclusion

A photo session with your toddler doesn’t have to be stressful or overwhelming. With a little patience, some creative play, and a relaxed attitude, you’ll be able to help your little one stay calm, engaged, and ready for their close-up. Remember to keep things fun, go with the flow, and focus on creating joyful, natural moments that you’ll cherish for years to come.

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